Dear xenopustex:

It is a no brainer for me to figure that’s the first, current problem that needs to be attended to is that albatross around your neck. First, remove that. You wrote: “I have a strong tendency to be negative and am working on curbing that too.” And next you wrote how your mother, currently, contributes to the strong tendency you have to be negative: “Get up in the morning to some negative comment about the news, sometimes get hit with negative comments about stuff when I get home. Get crap about how men suck, etc”

So, how are you “working on curbing that”? Can’t with the negative albatross around your neck.

You are already seen as crass and aggressive in the eyes of the people at work and where you live; if you remove your mother from your home and the town people see you as crass and aggressive-

Wait! They are already seeing you that way, no difference.

But you are seeing yourself badly when you entertain the thought of removing her from your home. You wrote before that you were raised by your grandparents. Why didn’t your mother raise you and what was her contribution to your young life?

anita