Dear loulette:

You are dating G and are on a break from your relationship with the other guy, whom you refer to as your ex although the relationship with him is on a break, not terminated yet. Am I correct so far?

G is closer by, is emotional, not financially secure, has an expensive habit and is younger than the other guy who is analytical, financially secure and is long distance and when you meet, he has sexual performance problems.

You are trying to make a choice between the two. And you are 24. My advice: choose neither one. Tell both that you are not ready for a relationship with either and date other guys. Spend the next few years focusing on your career, socializing, having fun, and doing a lot of living.

I wouldn’t tell the long distance guy about G: why hurt his feelings… simply have no exclusive relationship with either one: no commitment and let them both no just once your non committal position so that they will move on as well to dating other women.

anita