Dear iamfreee:

As far as whether to give him space, he already made the choice himself by not answering your texts. That means he is taking his space. So I won’t continue to text him.

You cheered him before his finals. Then he failed and you are thinking he is embarrassed for not living up to your cheering. If you do get to communicate with him again, don’t cheer him anymore. Just listen to him, ask him how he feels, and listen.

In your quest to be loved, and to be number one, in that desperation you are not likely to act effectively with people but overwhelm them with your strong emotions, jealousy and possessiveness. This is why I am coming back to the therapy or counseling idea, maybe a self help group for young people, a place for you to express your strong emotions… so to not be overwhelmed by them and to not overwhelm others by them.

I wish I had a fast and easy solution for you but if you give this a few months in therapy / counseling/ self help, you will notice great progress in you, a calming down and the ability to deal with life well.

anita