Dear Lauren:

You wrote: “I wonder what I am overlooking now?”

I think you are overlooking this guy’s disrespect and mistreatment of you. You are not seeing that this is not love and hasn’t been love, not since the beginning when he left you outside his basement.

It must be that as a child you didn’t know love, that you were ignored, rejected, mistreated. If you were loved as a child, you would have known that this thing with this man is not love.

It feels badly to be mistreated by him but you are used to it. To remove the blinders and see what is happening, I am afraid, you will have to see what happened to you as a child. This is when you closed your eyes. And so they remain closed.

I am so sorry. I “see” your pain and I wish you knew love, not mistreatment.

What happened to you as a child, you probably don’t want to see. It is not a pretty sight, to be fully aware of what was. But the price you pay for not being aware of what happened then, is that you are not fully aware of what is happening now.

If you were fully aware of what is happening now, you would be out of where you live immediately, no second thoughts.

What do you think… feel?

anita