Dear Jessica:

You are very welcome. Obviously you like him very much and you are attached to him and obviously he likes you very much and is attached to you. It is also obvious to me that the two of you are in a relationship, a love relationship. Doesn’t matter what anyone calls it, what the title given.

The problem as I see it, is that he doesn’t want problems and will not confront or address problems. I am guessing when a problem arose in his past relationships, he avoided the problem until the relationship ended, ignored the problem. When you bring up a problem, something you are unhappy about, he gets mad and terminates the conversation.

So how can you have a long term relationship (and again, a relationship is what you are having with him) if you get shut down when you bring up something that needs to be addressed?

Do you have more information or observations about him avoiding problems or conflicts at any cost?

anita