Dear Laure:

You wrote above: “If it weren’t for my parents, I would live in my car out there until I got my act together, but I won’t do that because I don’t need the criticism.”

There is another way to avoid your parents’ criticism and that is to not be present for it, that is, to not be in contact with them. Unless they no longer criticize you.

It seems to me that you think the only way for you to avoid your parents’ criticism is to do as they want you to do, to obey, to roll over and submit. There is another way.

You wrote that you are “so tired of same thing”- there are parts of the “same thing” that you don’t see, I believe, and that is your interaction with your parents, and that needs to be changed.

You wrote: “I want to make the change I really need, even if that means doing it alone.”

I think “alone” is the way to go. What do you think?

anita