Hi Choccoffeewine,

In our subconscious mind where Mythology resonates, there dwell The Perfect Beneficent Parents. Most of us try to live up to the Great Mother or Great Father Archetype. Your dad, for example, made a good attempt. Your mom didn’t even try. Now, we still have The Archetype that lives in us. And all we can do is forgive our bumbling, imperfect parents for fulfilling, say, 10% of it (they kept us alive after all).

I would stick to a schedule (say, visit her every month and call once a week. And answer texts and calls etc. after 5).

And I would also Throw Money At It.

When everyone calls you screaming, say, simply, “OK, I’ll call tomorrow and will see you next week!”

When your mom throws you a laundry list of chores, errands, etc., say, “I hired this local girl to do that for you.”

You are changing The Script. You are holding fast to your Boundaries. You are Managing everyone else’s Expectations.

This is The Gift your mother is actually giving you!

Blessings,

Inky