Dear G:

If you intend to stay married to her and live together as a married couple, then the issue of having children has to be resolved first. Ask her for her reasons, understand those and evaluate how to proceed from there. Better get divorced then live with her trying to talk her into having children, hoping for it to happen and getting frustrated along the way, or worse.

If she brings up divorce Sunday, my advice is for you to not appear desperate. Be as calm as you can. Get all the information that you can from her by asking questions in a simple and direct way, just trying to get the information, understanding her thoughts and emotions: what are they?

Don’t pressure, don’t push, keep your emotions in check so that you are able to think clearly. If you need a break, take one- walk around, come back to the conversation, or end it and meet again. Tell her you need time to calm down and process.

Most important, listen to her, gather information and if you’d like, post it here for my objective feedback (objective because I am not emotionally attached to her).

anita