Dear Chelsea:

I will read each paragraph of your last post and respond to each before going to the next:

First: There is not a person in the world who is motivated all the time, all day long, every day. Don’t be alarmed then when you feel emptiness, lack of motivation, even hopeless and despair. Accept these feelings and expect them. Feelings are like the weather, they keep changing- for everyone. I wish it was possible to always feel joy and motivation and otherwise just calm. I wish to never feel emptiness and despair but I will and so will you. Every such feeling will pass, as no feeling lasts.

Second:Ffear is one of those feelings we have to accept and expect. It is the most powerful and it does limit us. Every one of us, humans, has to find a way to live with fear. I wish there was a way to eliminate it and be forever free of it. Not possible. Don’t be alarmed when you feel fear; accept and expect it. Don’t be hard on yourself for not living up to your full potential- who does?

Be very gentle and patient with yourself- that works best with fear. Gentleness and patience with yourself- instead of beating yourself up- will work best to stretch those boundaries to the maximum possible, one day at a time.

Third: You were authentic as a young child. As young children, we don’t know that we are unsafe. So we act as if we are not afraid. But this is not all authenticity is about. All your feelings presently are your own feelings, none of them is a foreign interruption of your authentic self. You are no longer the carefree child (maybe for a short period of time here and there), but you are still authentic if you accept all your feelings, understand their valid messages and act for your own benefit. Making choices for your well being, regardless of how you feel, is being authentic.

Hope you post again, anytime.
anita