Anita,
You are so right! And I knew it was wrong of me to ask my friends to visit her. So, I don’t anymore.
She does get help. First of all, she is married and he takes her everywhere she needs to go. Secondly, she gets some meals on wheels and physical therapy.
She WANTS friendship. That one is tough because it’s depressing to be around her for very long. And when she’s delightful to be with (which is also often), she won’t let you leave or get off the phone. You’d have to walk out while she was talking.
I tell her upfront (I have to leave by 9pm) and she’ll say “Can you just put my trash can out?” AS I’m leaving her house.
I need to let her know she needs to respect other people’s time and then maybe she’ll have more visitors.

Thanks!
Jeanne