Dear savannah1:

It is helpful for me that you came up with something specific regarding the objectifying women issue: the album he has on Facebook. This is not necessarily a minor issue.

If he made a comment in passing about female wrestling of this kind, after some advertisement on TV, let’s say, well, that could be an impulsive comment and he is only in the process of developing sensitivity to what bothers you and to the issue itself.

But a Facebook album that objectifies women is more permanent that a passing comment and more intentional than an impulsive comment. After all you were sexually assaulted and you feel strongly about a topic that costs millions of women around the world their well being and lives. I think it is fair for you to ask him to remove that album, kindly. Not in an angry way, but in an honest, assertive way. I’d say it’s major. Your experience, your feelings and the issue itself are in combination, definitely major.

anita