Dear Zita,

I used to be like that before. I still am to some extent and its normal for most people to seek some levels of external validation. The only way out of excess dependence on social cues was to find ease in my own company and skin. This happened when I finally began to understand my nature better and what i wanted from my life. I am an introvert and when i began to do what i enjoyed personally more, i was happier and comfortable with myself. I started using the phone less, going out alone more for long walks without any gadgets, keeping in touch with people i was super close to only and reading more than ever. I still get insecure and sad sometimes but we’re human, ups and downs are inevitable in life. Thats my thinking process but it isnt necessarily yours.

You are you – thats the part you need to figure out. What do you want for yourself?

Look at yourself in the mirror one day completely in a raw state – no people to console or advice you, no make-up, no clothes and ask yourself: “Can you accept who you are with the good, bad and ugly?”

Regards,
Nina