Hi, Butterfly.

I just saw that you began this thread.

I posted this in reply to your post on the other thread, but to avoid cross-talk I’ll re-post it here:

Of course, I don’t know what is going through his mind, but I imagine that his texts are intended to test the waters of stringing you along.

Regarding his hurtful texts, I imagine that he is intentionally trying to get a response from you, not unlike a child who, when he can’t get the positive attention he wants, tries to get negative attention instead. If you respond, he gets what he wants, and then the door has opened for him to turn on the nice side to try to get you back into the push-pull cycle.

It is up to you, but I suggest that you do not respond to anything. What would be the productive purpose in responding? If he cannot have a positive, beneficial relationship with you, and you do not want to be in a negative, destructive relationship with him, what would be the purpose of delaying your healing and getting on with your life by entering into any kind of a dialogue with him, be it via text, e-mail, telephone, etc.?

CMI