Dear XenopusTex:

It is a strong draw, to keep doing what one has been doing- in your case, to overwork. The payoff is that there overworking it keeps you busy, there is a clear paycheck payoff to working (and maybe to overworking, as in more pay for the extra work), you know how to do the job, you have done it before.

On the other hand, changing your living arrangement- no longer living with your mother and meeting and getting to know a woman in the long process of a relationship- these are the things you haven’t done before.

So easier is what we have done before; difficult is what we haven’t.

I have done it; most people have… hey, I still do it. I go to tiny Buddha and neglect my paper work, day after day, because this is easier for me.

And so, you will do the other things when you are ready, just like I will do my paper work when I am ready.

anita