Dear Qrasy:

You meet friends, read books, prepare food, drink your morning coffee and do all the other things you do but you still think of her and feel that burn on your chest, except when you sleep.

I am thinking, maybe you are not noticing that there are moments in your day that you not feeling that burn on your chest but you don’t notice. I am thinking this because emotions and sensations change over time, that is their nature.

If you pay attention (the practice of paying attention is called Mindfulness, and maybe you can read about it), you will be able to learn what parts of the day or what activities help in relieving your pain and pursue those activities more. Mindfulness is very important in the process of healing.

When you have a few minutes break from that pain, notice: I just had a break! What was I doing during that break? Maybe I should do more of that…

anita