Dear xoxoxo:

LOA- yes, I know the term. Regarding his abuse of you, what I gather is that he called you something like “stupid”- yes, this is abusive. I understand he was sexually aggressive with you one time, and if you resisted him that one time, expressed your discomfort with what he was doing and he kept doing it, that was abusive as well.

Other than that, I am not aware of more abuse by him. The “dealer”- I don’t know what it means. I asked you to detail his abuse of you without your feelings so to get clarity but you did add your feelings. This makes it unclear to me. I was unclear about your posts to begin with for this very reason: the fact that you feel hurt by someone’s behavior does not automatically means they did something wrong.

It is a process to figure out what wrong doing another is responsible for and what only feels wrong.

When your ex boyfriend called you something like “stupid” in front of your parents, how did your parents react to him calling you that?

anita