Dear Ke:

You wrote in your original post: “My problem is that he is completely unwilling to discuss his emotions about anything… All I ask of him is that he’s honest with me about how he feels.”

You also wrote that he: “basically told me that I take everything from him and give nothing back, that I don’t care about him, love him or respect him.”- seems to me that he told you how he feels and the fact that he repeated himself (first time in your post: “The other day he said he’s given me 100% and I only give 1%”)- means he honestly FEELS that he is giving you a whole lot of love and that you give him very little.

Doesn’t matter to my point whether it is true or not (I know you feel strongly that it isn’t)- and I don’t know what exactly he is referring to, what kind of giving, that is- but clearly, he honestly feels this way.

So you know what he feels. And because he feels this way, really, he should cancel the wedding plan.

If I was you, I would get details from him: what exactly is it that he feels he is giving and you are not? And listen to his answer, if he gives you one.

And if you talk about this calmly with him (he dislike talking because so far it means fighting?), and he repeats himself yet again that indeed he strongly feels this way about the giving, then ask him why he wants to marry you (or you him)?

anita