Dear Capricornus:

Before responding to your situation, I have my own story to share with you, a story about the mix of romance and anxiety. I was a very anxious teenager (and child before it as well as the adult afterwards). I had a heavy duty crush on that boy on 11th/ 12 grade in high school. I spent countless of hours per day, fantasizing, day dreaming of a love-story-materialized with him. His name was Robert, honey color straight hair and thick eye glasses, an intellectual. His father was a medical doctor- that impressed me at the time.

So day after day I dreamed. Didn’t talk to him- couldn’t imagine doing that in real life, just looked at him, and in my imagination I was saying and doing all that I …well, couldn’t imagine doing in real life.

I learned that he attends this youth movement (in real life) so I joined it and I was able to see him in the evenings, late in the evenings. The meetings took place half an hour away, walking, from where I lived. The walk from the meetings back were in the dark (not dangerous), under occasional street lights, in the silence.

One night, maybe 9 PM, after a meeting, Robert stood in front of me and asked: “Can I walk you home?”

I don’t remember my physical state when he asked, only my response:

“No.”

What? Come again? Did I say NO?

And I walked home alone, in the dark, under the street lights, wishing and dreaming he was walking with me, hand in hand.

To your situation: if I was you, I would approach him (in real life), as relaxed as you can manage to be and appear, and make it possible for him- if that was his intention- to ask you out or lead to that. I advise you this just as I would advise the teenage me, that night, to say: YES!

anita