Dear grupaok:

Two and a half months was a very short relationship. At the beginning, you wrote, he told you that he would like you to move to the other state with him and live together. That was very quick- that expressed intention on his part, to quick to trust. This is why it is important to take time to know a person, to know and to be known.

There is no substitute to learning about a person over time, asking questions and listening, observing and evaluating before you get heavily invested in that person. When you are emotionally involved you lose objective evaluation of who the man is and what the relationship is about.

As you go through this recent, very fresh breakup, please do post here again and again, for as long as it gives you some comfort. I will reply every time.

anita