@Faye
“Unfortunately it sounds like Y is not ready to fully commit to a gay relationship, and would like to experience being with a man before she can understand her own sexuality” yes she did say she wants to experience more in life, especially heterosexual romantic relationships. I don’t demand that she comes out or acknowledge me as her lover – I am quite cool about her going off to try new things now. It troubled me at the beginning, knowing that I can’t give her things she wants (recognition by her traditional family, babies, fairy-tale like marriage) but also knowing it’s not a ‘FAULT’ on my part for being a female. I initially felt it was unfair of her to have left me so that she can ‘officially’ and ‘properly’ date a guy, while still wanting me to be supportive and loving. But as I said, I have made progress in letting go and not care about it too much now.

As of now, I want to pursue my academic and career goals. I’ll admit I still want to be with her, but somehow the desire is fading and I am excited about meeting someone new, someone who is more certain of what he/she wants and is complete on his/her own. I’ll remain hopeful and be ready to embrace a new, deep relationship. “Always remember, whatever happens, be safe in the knowledge that you will always be ok. This should give you the strength to act in a way that nurtures your own soul” – thank you. I hope I find peace soon and grow wiser as a result of this.

Charlotte