Dear LBNL:

You described your family as “very tight-knit and loving ” and yet when you were at school you looked forward to go home so to have a pint of ice cream. Why did you not look forward to enjoy that tight-knit loving feeling you suggested there is in your family?

You wrote that back when you were a child you hit your dog because you didn’t have empathy back then. No empathy in the context of a very tight-knit and loving family?

And in the context of that loving family you are anxious, feeling incompetent, unable to imagine an independent life.

I think psychotherapy with a competent therapist will be very helpful to you: to be and become an independent young woman, start your career, develop a loving relationship with a partner and move on and out of your home, which doesn’t read to me so very loving.

anita