To H8full8:

I am strong to talk about the dilemma only when I share it with strangers otherwise I will never have that coversation with my family or friends cuz either they are chnaging the topic when I got the courage to lead that converstation or they just are not listening to me and when I get insistent they start a fight or leave the room.

Thanks for the article it was useful and goes hand in hand with Daniel Coleman’s book “Emotional intelligence” that I am reading right now. I hope it helps me and I follow the things I learnt from bothe the article and the book in life without destroying everything that i got- believe me I am really good at that and I am a person with little luck.