Dear intuition:

You wrote: “Whenever I am compassionate and kind to those who disrespect me, I end up feeling like a doormat.”

When you are clearly being disrespected and abused, the thing to do at that moment is to assert yourself, not to be compassionate and kind to the one disrespecting and abusing you.

Maybe at a later time, if a person sincerely apologizes to you, corrects his behavior and makes amends to you- then you can choose to forgive that person and show him compassion and kindness. But not until such correction is made by the offending party.

I am not sure if this is a text you sent the guy who abused you, the one in your example: “Anger is suffering, and I am sorry that you suffer..” Is that what you texted him?

anita