Dear Anya:

No, you should not forgive him because he did not take responsibility for abusing you. He did not sincerely apologize, he did not say he was going to attend psychotherapy or an anger class so to NOT abuse you verbally, using abusive language.

You suffered a lot already, don’t invite more suffering by renewing contact with him.

I think you are stuck because you still need positive attention and love- as humans do. And there is no other candidate at this point to give this to you, so you are stuck on the one that SOMETIMES, in between the abuse, gave you some positive attention.

Accept the fact that you need positive attention and that he is not a source for it because his abuse negates any such positive attention and it (his abusive talk) hurt you and will continue to hurt you.

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anita