Dear Liquidsnake:

In your original post on this thread you wrote regarding this woman with whom you had some kind of an intimate relationship for over a year and with whom you now you have a business relationship:

“Why do we go back to emotionally abusive, unreliable, and selfish people, even after knowing and experiencing, that, they will take you for a ride for sure…Is it because of lack of self worth…so that we feel emotionally safe and comfortable and dont want to lose their presence in our life…

I’m not able to get out of an emotional tangle and vicious circle and keep going into it again and again…. Can some one please guide me or help me to understand my behaviour?”

I am thinking that the danger that you fear by hurting her feelings is that- as strange as it may read to you- you still experience some emotional safety around her and you “don’t want to lose” her presence in your life?

anita