Dear Jared:

What if you used the week or more, the time between now and you getting the medical results regarding that lump for an exercise: as peacefully as you can manage, accept the possibility that the lump is deadly. I hope it is not. But it may be. It is also possible that the lump is benign but as you get on the road tomorrow in your vehicle, that an accident takes place and… It can happen any day. Like Clint Eastwood in Unforgiven said: “We all have it coming.”

Talk to your wife about this possibility (and at some point talk about the possibility that she will be gone before you)- what will happen then? Discuss it. Write it down. Make arrangements. Be prepared.

This is about confronting real danger as we all may get sick any day. I will go to bed in two hours. I may not wake up tomorrow … “We all have it coming.”

What do you think about my suggestion?

anita