Dear pete:

“I feel like poison” you wrote, but you are not poison. You feel like you are “supposed to suffer”- but you are not supposed to suffer.

Behind every feeling we have there is a valid, true message. The messages you came up with are not the valid, true messages. Children incorrectly conclude, when childhood is scary and painful, that they are the cause of it. This is the natural thinking of a child but it is incorrect thinking.

You did not poison your mother and father: they were poisoned by their parents and passed it on to you. And so you were the victim of their poison, and this, I believe, is the valid message.

anita