hi everyone,
my mind is a little confused at the moment, don’t know what to do. I would really appreciate some advice on my situation:
my boyfriend & I of three years recently broke up about a week & half now. (We work together, his dads businees. I am in a finial situation where i can’t simply quit at the moment. He is 30 & i am 23)
We have been having some issues in our relationship for some time now. Issue being: I do not approve of my boyfriend hanging out with the opposite sex one on one. I don’t mind if its a friend I know of, and go have some lunch or hang out with a friend once in a blue. But it does bother me when he calls his girl friends that i don’t even know about and goes to hang out with them… Go to a bar, Have a class of wine ect. I do not apprciate that. I have talked to him about this already and i get is “I am just chilling, i’m not going to do anything to hurt you. I just like to talk to people and also switch up the energy and meet new people, mingle. But I won’t do anything to hurt you.” Basically. We have broken up several times now, due to this issue. This time around, was the last straw. He broke up with me because, again, i called him out on hanging out with a girl having a class of wine. Specially when he said he was going to hang out with the guys. So we called it off, and decided that that is it. A week and half later, he calls me several times until i finally answer and he basically said that he loves me but that we need to grow and that he simply just cannot stop hanging out with other girls. That i do not let him “chill” i simply said, okay i respect your decision if you don’t want to change or be in a relationship with me. I asked him to please stop calling me then, and he went on saying how we should still be friends that he wants to call me and keep talking to me, and that we should still work together ( like helping him @ his business, ect.) and also help each other out… That if we stop the comuncation everything will die and won’t be the same. To grow as individuals but to not stop talking to him like that. He says that he won’t ask me to be intimate with him or anything of that matter just to have that friendship. I am not sure if to ingore his phone calls and move on ( i still want to make things work) or have a friendship ? I am very confused. He rather break up with me than stop hanging out with other girls ? I don’t understand. Some one please help me.