Dear colourpopz:

You felt that he was your soulmate (and he felt it too) because he is a seeker of truth, as are you; both not believers of a god. And because his logical, realistic thinking complemented your emotional tendency to be overly positive. The two of you accepted and respected each other, not trying to change the other (this is why you felt safe and comfortable in his arms).

Do you believe you can find this combination in another man?

A side note: if he is the only non-Muslim in his family and friends, and is back living with them, and while he was with you, he was away from them, what that means to me is that while he was away from his family and friends, with you, it was easier for him to be him. Back where he is living, life is more difficult for him. There must be pressure exerted on him by his family and friends to return to Islam. With you he had a break from this pressure. It is possible that he can be your soulmate, as he has been, only when living away from them, as he did when he was with you.

anita