Dear blkhwkdwn1:

I don’t think it is impossible for you and her to be more than friends, at least, I don’t see a reason why not. She had a depressed boyfriend for a long time… wait, you did write that she had a depressed boyfriend for many years…so why is it impossible for her to have a relationship with another depressed man?

I don’t believe in psychiatric drugs beyond the short term, by the way. These drugs are given on a trial and error basis to relieve symptoms at best, often they work as placebo and side effects are unpleasant. Taking anti depressants as well as other psychiatric drugs for 17 years did nothing at all to improve my life. I finally got off, got into competent psychotherapy and my life is improving. So no, I am not a psych drugs fan.

Make the move to have coffee with her.

anita