Claref,

I think you can see that your behaviour in these situations isn’t acceptable – throwing laptop, cups is over the top considering the gravity of the situation. Your present bpyfriend will find this unpleasant no doubt and it is very difficult for one person to always be on their guard all the time for fear of upseting you. Is it always possible for you or for anyone for that matter to have that kind of control over words 24×7?

Its time you get to the root of this and manage better. Consider for instance why you are so anxious related to this person and why there has been a pattern of volatile relationships? What did you see in these men and why did the last relation end?

I understand the hormonal problems involved in mood and strongly recommend seeing a therapist and physician for these issues.

Regards,
Nina