Dear claref:

Help is on the way.. well, I hope, somewhat. First, minimize your irritability due to your three conditions:

1. Reactive Hypoglycemia, perhaps eat small meals and snacks about every 3 hours, avoid or limit sugar intake, exercising regularly, eat a variety of foods, including protein, whole-grains, fruits and vegetables, and other high fiber foods. A low-carbohydrate diet and/or frequent small split meals is the first treatment of this condition. Add small meals at the middle of the morning and of the afternoon.

2. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS): a healthy diet (above) and more physical activity will reduce the symptoms of this condition as well. Interestingly enough: “lower blood glucose levels, and may help” (Wikipedia)
Also, birth control pills help to control menstrual cycles and lower androgen levels. Diabetes medication is often used to lower insulin resistance in PCOS.

3. Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS): Manage by reducing salt, caffeine, and stress along with increasing exercise. Calcium and vitamin D supplementation may be useful. Anti-inflammatories such as naproxen may help with physical symptoms. Birth control pills may also be useful (oral contraceptive pill and the contraceptive patch). Diuretics have been used to handle water retention.

Seems like smaller meals more frequently throughout the day, adequate protein and fiber, exercise… birth control pills/ patch, these are recommended for at least two of your conditions.

Regarding your abusive behavior toward your boyfriend: because these conditions are so very common in women, to suggest to men to take abuse ONLY during certain days of the month is preposterous, ridiculous and senseless. Do all you can to minimize your symptoms and at the same time do not ask him to endure your abuse. Instead do not view your abuse of him as acceptable, no matter your medical conditions.

* Since you are only abusive to him during certain days of the month, and IF you cannot control yourself, find a different living arrangement for those days- so you are not living with him.

anita

Sound like you’re doing all the right things. Maybe you could practice meditating together? It sounds like he’s not always in control either.

Maybe you could discuss together how you might claw back control and a sense of calm when an argument between you starts.

I have talks about issues with people only when I am calmner – just wanted to clarify that retreating doesn’t mean I don’t talk about the problem with the other person.

Hi claref,

Yes there is a book to read and it does not just contain reading material but contains exercises that will take you through the actual process if you do them as you read. This book/technique is especially useful when one has trouble in letting things go.

Direct link to the post:
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/letting-go-of-the-past-2/#post-121645)

The anger issues you explained are natural for anyone and especially around the monthly cycles, but do not worry you will be able to release them with the book/technique. Once you are at a good practice of the technique you will even be able to do it while speaking to some other person or “at that moment” when your buttons are pushed.

Best Wishes!
VJ