Dear diamonddog:

It may not be a good idea for you to contact her so to relieve your guilt. If you contacted her, sent her a message, it should be primarily intended for her benefit, not for yours. Think, if you will, if and how a message you send her will benefit her?

You know the circumstances of your breakup; maybe you have information on how she is doing currently, in life- using that information, how can you benefit her with a message?

anita