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  • December 19, 2016 at 4:43 pm #123045
    Paul
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    after going through the “time and space” episode we finally “disconnected”. Now what? Devestated and wandering aimlessly . Should probably just chill , not sure. Trying to heal and not fall into depression

    December 19, 2016 at 6:50 pm #123059
    Anonymous
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    Dear Paul:

    I just looked into previous threads, a couple of years ago you shared that you were married for forty years, 40 years, is this correct? If so, you are a man in your sixties.

    When you wrote above that you ‘should just chill” – what do you mean?

    anita

    December 20, 2016 at 11:43 am #123117
    Paul
    Participant

    By “chill” I simply meant that it might be best not to pursue another “relationship” right away.

    December 20, 2016 at 11:57 am #123119
    Anonymous
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    Dear Paul:

    I hope you do chill. In your original very short post you wrote: “Trying to heal and not fall into depression.”

    Write more about what needs healing in your mind and heart, if you’d like, for further input.

    anita

    December 20, 2016 at 3:51 pm #123134
    Paul
    Participant

    Anita,
    This breskup has rocked me to my very core. I can’t get her out of my mind snd it’s eating me up inside. I kmow what anxiety feels like and it’s raised its ugly head once again and I’m doing my best to cope and mend a broken heart.
    I can’t concentrate on anything else and wander aimlessly
    trying to distract myself. If time truly heals then I need a time warp intervention
    Just curious, why do you mention my age ?
    Thanks Anita for your timely responses . I hate being messed up

    December 20, 2016 at 5:45 pm #123141
    Anonymous
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    Dear Paul:

    I mentioned your age because I was under the impression that you were a very young man, a teenager or early twenties because of the very short sentences, and what seemed to me (again, it is a first, quick impression) lack of experience or insight.

    Mentioning age and time, you wrote “if time truly heals”- time heals superficial wounds, I learned, not the deep, long term ones. So maybe your pain over this particular breakup will lessen and be gone.

    I hope so.

    anita

    December 21, 2016 at 11:37 am #123223
    Paul
    Participant

    Thanks again Anita . At least I am young at and feeling a bit juvenile handling a broken heart . Age seems inconsequential at point in my life. I appreciate your kind wishes and hopefully time will hasten the healing.

    Paul

    December 21, 2016 at 11:57 am #123226
    Anonymous
    Guest

    You are welcome, Paul. Post anytime.
    anita

    December 23, 2016 at 6:28 pm #123408
    Paul
    Participant

    Still miss her every moment and don’t know how to move on while still feeling so deeply anout her. This feels more painful than the break up of my marriage. Perhaps, because it is so fresh and so very frustrating. Feeling rather alone and incomplete.

    December 23, 2016 at 8:18 pm #123420
    Anonymous
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    Dear Paul:

    Maybe you can attend a support group? There are groups of people meeting for the purpose of talking about the aloneness and incompleteness that you mentioned. For example Codependent Anonymous, if you live in the U.S, and maybe in a city location, can be such a place. If you google support groups, you may find a group you will enjoy attending, be around people who will listen to you empathetically, provide comfort and share their stories with you.

    anita

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