Dear cath:

I re-read your new thread and your second post in it. Following your return from the second trip to his country he grew cold, disinterested and rude and he wouldn’t tell you what is the problem.

The only thing I figure is you spend too little time with him, in person. It is/ was a very new relationship. You saw him only twice, I understand, visiting him in his country, and you dived into it emotionally too soon and too deep:

“… it was amazing. Perfection. We had fun together like I never had with anyone else. I was absolutely sure we were on the same page, corresponding each other. I felt safe and secure, had no doubts”-

Seems too soon to be “absolutely sure”. Too soon to feel safe and secure in the relationship. Infatuated to the point of using the word Perfection.

Too soon, is my understanding of it. You simply didn’t know him enough and you dived in blindly into premature safety, security, confidence. You used the common term in your last post: falling in love. Fall/ dive, same principle- not having your feet on solid ground.

Did you move out of your patents’ home (living with your father), I wonder. What happened with the PhD aspirations…

anita