Hi eversam2,

In my mind you have one job: Protecting the children. You are doing that. Good for you!! Good for you for non-negotiating on that. In abusive situations the one not going along with the abuse is labelled bad. Congrats for saying “NO”!!

Tell your DH when and if he is ever in a good mood that not only are you not dealing with your MIL anymore, you don’t want to hear about her or hear what she has said about you. That you will see her when she has been stone-cold sober for over a year. And that when the children are eighteen they can have their own relationship with her. (These will probably never happen).

And by the way, add that SIL on your list. They sound like the types of people who would call Social Services because they need drama and will fabricate and believe the little stories they tell themselves about you.

When your youngest is grown seriously revisit the state of your marriage and don’t be afraid to leave.

Blessings,

Inky