Dear Fruzsina:

If you had your boyfriend’s childhood, his parents, you would probably be introverted yourself and if he had your childhood with your parents, he would probably be extroverted. Neither one of you is in the right, needing to pull the other the “right way”-

It is wrong, really, to expect another person to act opposite to well established inclinations. You don’t want him to fake enthusiasm, do you..? If he has tried doing this for you, no wonder when he gets tired, it is too difficult for him to fake it.

In your original post You wrote: “it feels like effort to be with him because I always have to have the conversation flowing and provide energy for both him and myself.” In your most recent post you wrote that you are “constantly stressed” and overthinking. Maybe it will be better for you, when you spend time with him, to unwind and relax instead of trying so hard to keep a conversation flowing and expanding energy. Maybe, after all, you and him, at this time, need the same thing- to slow down, relax, unwind, be quiet, just hold hands and relax.

anita