No. I mean you need to take a pause, like a pause button ⏸
During this time you take the pressure off of yourself to find a mate. That is stop looking for now. When you pause, you reflect on your patterns in life. Identify them. Then see how they are working for you. During the pause you think about if you need to make a change in your life patterns. Pausing is the best time to make decisions. You can also think back to being unlovable and being lovable. For example; when did you feel lovable?

I read the book “Love Languages”, it is not just a female book. It is a philosophy that has some merit. Maybe you should read this during your ⏸.

Regardless of your language; Google this: Pause Button Therapy. I did and it helped me. Is helping me right now.