Dear nichole89:

Well, you don’t have to file for divorce- it is your choice. If filing costs money and you want to file, and you don’t want to spend it- don’t file. If he states, in the future, that he wants a divorce, let him pay for it and proceed, since it was his initiative to leave the relationship. He made that choice, let him pay whatever the financial consequences are.

You wrote that you are not ready to give up on the (practically over, at this point) marriage. If he gave up on it, though, there is nothing you can do. Two people not giving up is required to get the marriage back to life, one is not enough.

anita