Dear lajlachicha:

Your second post makes it clear to me that the right choice for you is to stay in your country and study there. You are well aware of the different factors in your situation, all angles and you make a lot of sense, rational and emotional. I agree with you that most often, there is not “just one path to success – me leaving everything and going there” This is not even a sure path to success, not at all.

In making the right choice for you, staying in your country, with your boyfriend, studying for the next few years, you will have to deal with your parents who are unreasonably insistent on that “just one path”, being blind to anything but… that “just one path.”

You intend to be a psychotherapist. I studied at the time about the separation–individuation theory of child development. If you are able to make this major decision YOUR OWN, regardless of the disagreement and disapproval of your parents, then you are a separate individual, and you have accomplished this separation-individuation stage of development.

anita