Dear learningmimi:

You are welcome. Relocating reads like a good plan to me.

You want to have as good a relationship as possible with your family while setting boundaries with them, is what you expressed, if I understand you correctly.

In the earlier post you wrote: “the more I set boundaries, the more distance I receive and lack of support”-

There is no way for you (even if you study setting boundaries for ten years and get a PhD in Boundary Setting), to set boundaries with your mother/ family and NOT suffer the consequence of them removing emotional support from you and creating emotional distance from you. Any book you get will help you to state your boundary, but it will not prevent your mother/ family from punishing you the ways they already have.

To create the boundaries in your life, that you need for your mental health and quality of life, you have to EDURE their emotional distancing.

anita