I am 35 (36 in less than two weeks) and he is 45.

When he asked me last summer to move in this past December, I wanted to wait to get to know the children and establish a good and solid relationship with them, which he was in agreement with for me to move in the summer of 2017. In January he was nervous about me moving in and we talked about in depth for a while deciding to postpone moving in till the time felt right. The kids love me and want me there living with them full time (at least the younger ones did, they often stated it)

The mother’s departure is hard on the kids. They cry at night and can’t understand they she left and had to move 20+ hours away. Frankly Brickman still doesn’t understand. When the kids ask her she is vague in her answer. He is angry and frustrated that she left and he is working with his therapist on that. The kids see their about being sad and missing her.

I can understand that the kids are hurting, and witnessing their pain hurts us. What parent wants to see their child hurting?

I personally wish that I could spend some time with them. Take them to the local festival I’m going to this weekend which they would love, and out to lunch. Brickman mentioned to his friend last week that the kids want to spend time with me. I just don’t know if I wait for him to bring it up or if I should.