Dear wildoceanflower:

The imagined “living happily ever after” with this man, as his wife, my goodness, how delusional it seems to me. It doesn’t seem possible to me. To think of this man, as dishonest and toying as he has been with you, as irresponsible as he is being with the new woman in his life (having her and her child move in with him after only one month of dating is irresponsible)- the thought of a woman, any woman, walking-into-the-sunset with this man, is unbelievable to me.

Maybe for a very short time, a woman could feel elated, excited.. deluded. But after waking up from that delusion, make-believe “and they lived happily ever after. The End” of fairytales, it must be a cold, cruel awakening.

After the excitement of a wedding wears off…

anita