Thomas,

I’m not sure why you had to give us the explicit details of your heavy petting sessions just to turn around and ask us how to help someone with self love issues?

Has she freely offered this information, or is it an assumption that you’re making based on your own experience?  You haven’t given us a lot of information to base any suggestions off of.

Most important, self love is exactly that…  SELF.  It’s not something to be pursued or suggested by another individual.  It’s an experience and journey each of us makes in our own time, in our own way and for reasons we only know.  If you are truly close, this doesn’t mean that she will completely exclude you from her experience, but it is not something that you can guide or influence without tainting the way with your own being…

You are wanting her to love herself, so that she can love…  Do you understand how selfish that sounds?

I absolutely understand your feelings!  Love is a wonderful experience and you don’t want to risk losing what you’ve found…

wishing you health and happiness,

Ramone