Dear Lucy:

I think you did make the right decision. Being in the relationship with him, as you have been, did not motivate him to eat better, exercise and avoid excessive drinking, did it? So.. you were not helpful to him. I suppose when you end the relationship, he will continue his unhealthy habits. Or, maybe he will change them and get better.

If your affect on him was good: if he practiced good habits while in a relationship with you, and you were afraid that without you, he would abandon those good habits, then maybe there would have been a reasoning behind guilt on your part, but as is… it is likely to be the same for him, and who knows, maybe better.

Take care of yourself- keep your healthy habits and make healthy choices for you.

anita