Dear Amy love:

The “The behind the back talking” in Primary School is the same as the “self righteous gossiping about acquaintances or friends that aren’t present” that you are currently experiencing presently.

The “competitive attention grabbing” you described in Primary School is the same as the “grabbing for the conversational spot light. Talking about themselves (not in a deep or honest way) more of a ‘look everyone I’m doing so well at life kind of way'” you described in your current experience, with the women you socialize.

There is truth to this general behavior on the part of girls/ women in comparison to the “easy going energy, they always said what they meant, no games, point blank honesty” being the general behavior of boys/men. Girls are not born that way: it is a matter of gender/ social roles. Historically, women had way less power than men, so they developed, I believe, underhanded, indirect ways of obtaining power in relationships.

I wonder: when you were bullied by girls in your school years: how did your father help you? How did your mother help you during those years?

anita