Dear mapnerd:

It is you being pushed out of his heart while she is in his heart. And the threat is that this is another proof that you are the cause of rejection because you are not worthy enough, not as good as others, specifically the new girlfriend.

Of course, such belief hurts a lot. Thing is, it feels so true, isn’t it? We believe that what we feel indicate what is true. But in this case, it does not. You feeling hurt is not because you are unworthy but because you were rejected, only through no fault of your own. You were a worthy child, as worthy of any. Just as you are a worthy woman, as worthy as anyone, as worthy as the new girlfriend.

anita