You know when I first read your response I thought “my parents were always 100% supportive. They never did/said anything negative if I performed less than perfect.” But I stepped away and I’ve been thinking about it. While I do think that’s true (or really I don’t remember any reactions wither way) I think I felt like if I was not perfect, then I was not good enough or I was disappointing them.

I see that now too as as adult. Didn’t make it to the gym when I had planned? I’m not good enough. Got a 75 on a test I expected to do better on? I’m not good enough. A guy isn’t interested in me? I’m not good enough.

Obviously deep down I know this isn’t true but I realized I’ve been telling it to myself. So maybe as a child if I failed I felt as if I wasn’t good enough and I lost my parent’s respect.