Dear Jan:

I hope you feel better soon, that you don’t have an STD and are not pregnant. I also hope your confusion clears and that you will learn something important from this unfortunate experience.

You allowed him to touch you sexually the first time because you didn’t want to appear stuck up. As he touched you sexually, you said “no” but he kept at it. You figured it was a sexual assault. But next, you  agreed to have sex with him so that he doesn’t force himself on you like he did earlier.

These are the wrong reasons to have sex with a man.

Please, never again have sex with him or anyone for these reasons.

As to your question: “Is he using me?” – yes, he used you for sex, no doubt.

Back to the reasons to have sex with a man. The above are the Wrong reasons. Can you think of a Right reason to have sex with a man?

anita