Hi Sean,

i was so compelled to reply because we are in very similar boats. I’m 29, teacher and single now for almost 3 years after a rough breakup (my middle name is also Sean.. creepy!)

i know exactly how you’re feeling right now, and I know there is plenty of others who do too!

You sound like a great guy, and this part of your life isn’t forever. Even though it might seem it sometimes if you can’t catch a break.

For me, it took a lot of soul searching to be happy single and not tie self worth into a relationship, and that’s something to come to at your own speed. As you said, self confidence is something found attractive, and I think people can pick up on that easily in others. Think to yourself, what is it you’ve always wanted to do /who you always wanted to be, and never had the courage to follow through and figure out a plan to that path. The passion it brings out in you, people will want to gravitate towards your positivity.

Your part about being crueler, I get what you mean but probably wasn’t worded the greatest. You see girls chasing the bad boys and wonder why, it’s the confidence those type of guys have that is appealing, not the jerk attitude..

hope this helps! Keen to hear back from you mate